(If you feel attacked, you’re the problem. Or just too dumb to realize this is one perspective. Also, read the whole blog before blazing your guns at me.)
No seriously, what DO you want?
You want connection, but not commitment. You want deep conversations, but no “where is this going?” talk. You want someone who understands you, but also your personal space, silence, and uninterrupted “me time” every time the real stuff shows up.
Meanwhile, the rest of us are out here treating dating like an emotionally draining side hustle, and you’re still stuck in beta mode, trying to “see where things go.”
Right now, dating feels like a group project. One person’s doing all the work while the other just replies “lol true” and disappears till the deadline.
We’re not asking for candlelit proposals or cringey couple hoodies. We’re asking for effort, clarity, maybe even a basic sign of life.
And okay, to be fair, it’s not all your fault. You were raised in a world that told you to be chill, never catch feelings, and always have a backup plan. Add that to modern dating apps turning people into Pokémon cards, and now no one wants to “label” anything unless it’s streetwear.
And no, this isn’t a “men are trash” blog. It’s just, we’re tired. Tired of men who don’t know what they want but still want access to everything. Who panic the second things get real but also hate being alone.
And sure, women aren’t saints either. We overthink, misread, sometimes build an entire love story in our heads based on a guy liking our Instagram story within 4 seconds. But at least we try. At least we show up with some sort of direction.
You don’t need to settle down. Just settle emotionally. Take all the time you need, just maybe don’t RSVP to feelings while you’re still buffering.
P.S. Not knowing what you want is human. But dating five women while you figure it out is community service nobody signed up for.
Until next time amigos!
priyakistoriyan 
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